I have not posted for some time now…

So much has been happening and there just hasn’t been time to sit down and blog.
Stephanie graduated from K-State with masters in architecture, Michael graduated from High School and they graduated on the same day! That was an interesting feat to make it to both graduations, but we did it and are so proud of both of them! I would post pics but I don’t have them downloaded from the camera yet! My brother also graduated from college on the same day as my kids, we didn’t get to see that but I am proud of him too! It’s a big deal for such an old man to accomplish so much!!! Congrats to all three of you!

We have been consumed with the aftermath of the tornado that ripped through the heart of Joplin MO last Sunday, the devastation is beyond words and heartbreaking. Charlie has worked everyday since Sunday from sun-up to sun-down most days. There is so much to do and so many people displaced. There are the most amazing stories of Gods protection and stories of horror as well. Very difficult to wrap your head around the effects of destruction like this. There is a lot of work ahead of this community, they are a strong group and they are going to come through strong!

This weekend I have all my kids home but Stephanie, just working in Joplin and tonight relaxing and watching a movie.

We may have our miracle where michael is concerned. Keep praying we still have some big decisions to make. We know God will direct us and give us wisdom to do what is right for Michael.

so proud of Michael!

He completed his second English class today, three weeks ahead of schedule! Wow, Michael that is fantastic!! He has had to work so hard to get caught up and make up for all the time that he wasted messing around. He has applied himself and is making huge strides he  is right on track to graduate with his class in the spring! The Lord has done so much to bring Michael back from the danger zone he was dancing around in for so long. We are so thankful for the faithfulness of the Lord and for the answer to prayer. We still have a rough road ahead of us as we navigate the legal system that Michael landed us in with his poor choices last year. But God takes what the enemy plans for our destruction and turns it to bring Him glory, and makes the consequences stepping stones for getting to where God wants us to be. Nothing the enemy has planned or accomplished is to big for God, NOTHING!  Bravo Michael, BRAVO!  Keep up the good work as you work hand in hand with our Heavenly Father to stop the plans of the enemy for your life!


the kids are home and have big plans for the week. The boys are heading to KC for a day with their sister, Stephanie is heading home for a few days, we are going to watch Phantom on BlueRay, Kelly plans to ride her horse this week for some long rides! I am going to be getting off work early everyday so I can be home to take care of David when he gets here, Jim, his caregiver in the afternoon, will be gone on a missions trip this week. So we all have plans but nothing to big! Charlie will be business as usual.

Charlie and Kevin worked on cars all day today. They got a lot done. I did to. my house is decent and the bills are done. Michael, well I am not sure what he was up to today. I am concerned about him right now. When you think of him please pray, the pressures are tough and he is having a rough time of it right now. 

The lies of the enemy in our kids lives are very frustrating, and it can be overwelming trying to keep them safe from these lies. God has great plans for each of them and the desire of my heart is for them, all of them to fulfill the plans of God and not be lost in a world of danger without God at the center. The last days are on us now. The enemy is definately doing his best to deceive and steal our children away from us. But the plans of God are far stronger and powerful! Remaining faithful to praying and giving guidance when we can is our job as parents of older children. Oh for the days when they were little and the biggest problem we had was fighting over little stuff! Being the parents of teens and young adults is not what I thought it would be!!! I wouldn’t trade it for anything, the privilage of being able to pray and be a part of what God is doing in their lives is priceless!

Well the week has ended, I am still breathing

as is my manager! I have to tell you that I have found it very hard to not defend myself during this fiasco. I am still not clear as in the darkto just what is happening or going to happen. I do know that they had a very good time “discussing” me at a dinner thingy that I chose not to attend as I didn’t want to spend the evening with my enemies after spending the day with them! However, as much as they frustrate me I do have to give them credit for only acting like their Father, and I am not talking about their earthly father either! They are behaving in the only way that they know how and it is no suprise that they hate me. I am a child of God and we were warned that we would be persecuted in this world because of Him! So for me this has been a real hard thing because most of my life has been a sheltered one, not out among the ungodly long enough to be persecuted by them! I have only experienced the persecution from fellow believers!!!  Not fun either, let me tell you, maybe worse because they should know better! But enough of this drama crap umm, stuff!

Michael is  doing great, as far as I have been able to tell. He is having a little bit of trouble with making friends, it seems that forgiveness isn’t a strong suit among God’s people if it concerns someone you know who really messed up, as a child I might add, but that is a whole nother can of worms!!!  He is really trying to make right choices and we are really trying to be there for him, and change the way that we deal with issues that do come up, as it seems they always do! I know that God has a friend for him that is going to be good for him and encourage him to do what is right. We all need a friend like that, don’t we? Pray for him when you think of him, and his finding someone who will like him for him and also loves Jesus!! 

David has bGateway 002een wondering around town, I hear. I didn’t hear this first hand but through the grapevine…don’t understand that at all. I am looking for someone who can keep him in the afternoon until I get home from work. Michael and Kelly have to much going on after school to be able to count on them getting home for him. I have one person in mind that I am going to contact. She has a daycare though and may not want to have him there with the other kids there. Please pray with me concerning this delima. He hasn’t had another seizure, but it is a real concern to me that he may have one and be alone when it happens. I don’t mind him taking walks, in fact it is very good for him to be active and walking. But the whole seizure thing puts a new slant on things . He has an appointment next month with a neurologist, as well as an EEG scheduled for a couple weeks before hand. We hopefully will have some answers soon. I truly am not a deadbeat mom, just don’t have many options for a caregiver. It is one thing to take care of a child, it is a whole different matter to take on a 230 lb man, who will on occasion pitch a fit or have a seirzure! Isnt’ life grand? Always looking for solutions to problems…


Change, change and then more change!

Holly and Aaron

Holly is heading off to the Big City! She is going to dance school and is soooo excited about it! I am soooo proud of her and her decision to follow her dream.  Will Holly and Aaron’s relationship survive? That is all up to the Lord. Please lift them up in prayer as they walk this transition time out. They both have a calling on their lives, but they need to determine if they are called individually or as a couple. Things hang in the balance and we all know that is a very uncomfortable place to be. Our prayer for both of them is for the Lords will to be done in each of their lives. If Aaron turns out to be our son-in-law we are great with that, but only if it is God’s will! They are both so incredible and they have the potential to be an awsome ministry team, but sometimes that is not enough and God has other plans. Either way it goes we are okay with it, like we have any say in any of this anyway! God is the one who directs our steps….So when you think of Holly please lift her up. Big City, new surroundings, new people, she does have plenty of family there for her! Praise the Lord for that! She also needs a job and that quickly! Sooo many things going on in her life right now.



I am doing better at work right now. The Lord makes even your enemies to be at peace with you!  But never forget that they are not to be trusted! Such a shame that I always have my guard up. I don’t know what the Lord is doing in this yet but I do know that I am placed here for a purpose and a reason, that I will understand at some point in time. He is the one who promotes us to positions, not man, even if man thinks they are the one who is doing it. God’s timing is always perfect and I know that He is in complete control at my job, in my home and at church~ No matter where I am or will be, God is my comfort, my source, my shelter, my defense! What an awsome God He Is!!!!

Michael is doing great! We are very proud of him and the obvious hard work he is putting into everything he is doing right now. It hasn’t been easy but he is doing his best, and we are also doing our best to change how we deal with him. It has been harder for me than Charlie I think. I find myself going into the old ways of dealing with him, but Michael has responded so differently that it is getting easier to change for me also.  They gave him a Graduation party after church tonight. That was really sweet, he is received and loved at church by everyone. What a blessing. He did go to one youth group not so long ago, full of kids he knew from school, but not one of them talked to him…only the youth pastor. That was an incredible blow to him and to me. I was very disappointed in the youth group and their complete disregard for him being there. It had been a long time, you would think that their would have been some who would have made an effort to greet him.  Ask yourself this question, when someone comes to church or youth, do I greet them? Do I make them feel welcome? Do I have to like them in order to be friendly? Are only the people I really like worthy of God’s love expressed through me? Tough questions but they get to the heart of the matter. What kind of taste is left in the mouth of those who visit your church or youth group? Is there something that needs to change? Are you willing to be an instrument of change?    Blessings~


What is coming this next week?

Kevin and Charlie head to Florida for Nationals! Win or lose I am very proud of this young man and his accomplishments with not only the guitar but everything he sets his mind to! Albeit it does have to be what he really wants to do or it is done in a half ummm way manner!  For example, his room! 🙂 

My mom is here with me to help with David. Robbie had a heart cath done and a stint put in this last friday. She needs and deserves a break! David truly tests her patience on a regular basis! I don’t know what I would do without her though, she has been a God send! We didn’t realize just how much of a help Charlies mom was to us where David was concerned!

Michael has been home now for a week and he is doing very well. We are trying to keep him busy and have been able to do so with very little trouble. He has gotten quite a bit of work done around the house and yard and has been diligently looking for a job…still looking but hopefully something will come along soon. Michael and Kelly start school in a couple of weeks.

Stephanie is home this weekend she had to get her wisdom teeth extracted on Sat. She is doing pretty good, but is still pretty tired!ist1_9743382-angel-in-the-moonlight The pain hasn’t been out of control, that is so good, you never know how it is going to go! She moves into her new apartment with her new roommate Erica, on Monday. But only if her tires have come in at Burgraphs! They said her tire was on the verge of blowing! Thank God for His protection over her as she was driving home Friday with an almost dead phone! God is faithful even we are not, and I am so thankful for that!!! 

Kelly is still working with her horse and anyone elses that she can, she is amazing with those animals!

Holly and Aaron went to a wedding in Wichita this weekend and spent some time with Mema and Papa, sounds like they had a really good time!holly and aaron with mema and papa

Michael is home to stay….

Charlie went to pick Michael up this morning and bring him home to stay. He is soooo excited and we are excited too, and nervous, but that is in the Lords hands. So many changes in the last 16 months in him and in us. Now we walk out what we have learned and do our best with the Lords help not to fall into the same patterns as before! All these years of parenting and I feel like I know less now than ever.

Work stinks right now, but that will change. Actually I still really enjoy the work it is the constant blaming and snide remarks that get to me. I spent so many years teaching my children that blaming others for things gets you no where and that we need to gather all the facts before we start shooting our mouth off and yet I work with adults who don’t get this very elementary concept.  I have even told them at work that the stress level of being home all day with 6 kids was a picnic compared to the crap that flys in that office on some days! Said with a smile, of course, but meant every word of it! These people are worse than kids on way to many occasions! I am there for a reason and I will stay and be who I am supposed to be in that office, but today I would have been willing to quit if I didn’t need the job!